Are we going to make it?
What will it take to survive?
We hold on to each other
Afraid of letting go
Thinking of the things that could have been
Crying for why they're not
We are remembering, remembering
little things that make us smile
two friends whose daughters never met
now walk together forever in style
Walking forward for our families
looking back for memories
we share our stories over again
grasping for some peace
Christine and I had dinner together at our little mexican place. We've been there several times just to meet and eat and talk about our children - all of them - We meet in many places every month or so, whenever the need for each other is great.
I think I've finally figured out why I can't go to the Compassionate Friends meetings or at least why I feel uncomfortable there. Christine and I can share stories, we are part of each others lives. We may not have a long history but some of our experiences we have shared together. Those at TCF share a common experience but not together. It's why we need people who know Mary and Rachael to keep telling us about their experiences with them. Don't be afraid to talk about our girls because you think it will hurt us. It doesn't, it makes us happy, ecstatic, alive to know they haven't been forgotten. Not that we'd think you could ever forget them. We just love to hear the stories. Yes, we may cry but these are tears of love and laughter and joy because we are sharing them with the world. Our tears of pain and hurt will be put off till later.
I know TCF are a mainstay and a welcome shelter for many people. I commend them for opening their hearts to others who are hurting. But everyone is different. Their combined pain is too great for me right now. Maybe some day later.
In my last entry it sounded like I said Mary's friends aren't mine and I didn't mean the way it came out. They are mine NOW but I would much rather have her here with her friends than to have her friends here without her. I know they would rather have her here too. But I love them dearly, wherever they are because they are a part of her life. They make her who she is. The love of my life. My whole family is the love of my life.
Nothing much happened in court this month. We are waiting to see if this continuance to Dec 6th will be the actual trial or not. Waiting, waiting to hurry up and wait. Next court date is Nov 4th but it's for his ticket. The more I wait the more I hate.... and the more I love those I need.